i’m inclined to say no, primarily because i tend to think restricting any action to a legal age (especially on a roleplay site) isn’t the smartest thing to do. 17-, 16-, even 15-year-old roleplayers are smart, functioning people. given that there is no actual sex act committed, and it is kept strictly to roleplaying, i see very little ethical dilemma so long as everyone involved has consented to the smut plot, etc. it all depends on everyone’s level of maturity in handling the content, not on age. i was writing smut at fifteen. it was titillating and probably very bad, but innocent enough, because i wasn’t roleplaying smut as /myself/ – otherwise said, it wasn’t cybersex (which is, i think, an important distinction). and i think, as long as the distinction between real life and roleplay is kept intact, it’s perfectly fine for anyone who feels mature enough to handle the subject to do so.
of course – if certain rpers’ parents and/or guardians want them not to participate, i would prefer that they didn’t, but i have no way to control that.
but i’m interested to hear your side of the argument! please feel free to express your feelings in more detail; i’m open to hearing more.
i totally understand the will and the want to defend a friend and the site. i’ve reread the conversation twice now, and i certainly don’t blame the members for having felt so attacked or anything at all. what i reproach is the way in which certain things were said, presented, and discussed. it’s entirely possible to discuss things with otherwise rude people without having to resort to rudeness as well. preserving cosl’s integrity is incredibly important to me, and i want to foster a community that’s healthy, that’s kind, that’s generous, and most of all, that’s understanding. if someone comes inside the cbox and tells me they don’t like the site, of course i’ll be upset. that’s a natural human response. but i don’t think it’s okay to beat them down because of that. all i’m trying to do is to ask people to be the bigger man. you’re absolutely not overstepping, anon! i welcome your opinion, and i’m sorry you thought i was being rude. but i hope this presented my side of the situation to you in an okay manner? let me know if there’s anything else i should address!
i’d argue that it’s not the site’s fault, only that of certain people. but yes, i am deeply disappointed with certain things as well.
i am so sorry about this, anon. if i’d been on the site while this was happening, i would have stepped in, but unfortunately, i wasn’t around. i absolutely do not condone members attacking guests in the cbox, and i would have hoped that people would have tried to prove the guests wrong, instead of ganging up on them. hopefully this is something we can all learn from. as for cosl having a reputation for bullying, i just wanted to say i really hope most people don’t see us in that light. i really don’t want the site to have a bad reputation, because it’s my baby and i want as many people to enjoy it as possible.
i’m so sorry it took me so long to reply to this! it got buried in my inbox.
anyways, the rules clearly state that the trigger warning should be titled as follows:
TRIGGER WARNING: ISSUE or TW: ISSUE if there’s not much space
so there SHOULD be no problem with categorization, but if people are not complying with these rules, please let me know!
no. anyone who wants to be staff should first contact me (cam). i don’t choose solely based on past experience; i choose based on how well we get along, how compatible you are with the staff, and how much i trust you. it might sound a little harsh, but i once created a site and hired basic strangers as my staff, and it ended up being a disaster. so, i need to know anyone i hire.
you can email her at email@example.com, or add her on msn at the same address, as per what she said here, but to be honest with you, anon, i haven’t seen her on msn in a few months, so i don’t know whether she’ll respond or not.
soon, i promise. i lost my co-head admin and started a new job, so skinning has not been a priority lately, but i’ve asked cassie to skin something new for us, so hopefully it won’t be too long until cosl looks new and fresh!
it’s fair of you to ask, anon, but these are details which i would really rather keep private — sorry about that!